Comments on: My Name Is Becky And My Parents Are Alcoholics http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/ A blog about women and drinking--the ups, downs and everything in between. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:06:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Queen of the Rant http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-2/#comment-4715 Queen of the Rant Mon, 05 Jul 2010 20:26:09 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-4715 I thought it was a book, my bad, but another great blog to keep coming back to. Thanks Becky for sharing your life, and making it easier to shares ours with you. I thought it was a book, my bad, but another great blog to keep coming back to. Thanks Becky for sharing your life, and making it easier to shares ours with you.

]]> By: @Dayngr http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-3240 @Dayngr Thu, 22 Apr 2010 03:10:12 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-3240 You rock. You rock.

]]> By: Kaitlin http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-868 Kaitlin Sat, 24 Oct 2009 04:23:35 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-868 Thanks for this. Really, thank you. Thanks for this. Really, thank you.

]]> By: Becky http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-645 Becky Sat, 03 Oct 2009 23:57:36 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-645 Um, wow. Very well written. I have the same respect/fear of alcohol that you seem to have, but for different reasons. I am not an alcoholic, nor is anyone in my family. I am, however, bipolar and one drink can become a binge depending on what mood phase I'm in. I've seen the damage it can do, and the things I have done while manic and drunk I am truly deeply ashamed of. But this isn't about me, this is about you and you are amazing. Um, wow. Very well written. I have the same respect/fear of alcohol that you seem to have, but for different reasons. I am not an alcoholic, nor is anyone in my family. I am, however, bipolar and one drink can become a binge depending on what mood phase I’m in. I’ve seen the damage it can do, and the things I have done while manic and drunk I am truly deeply ashamed of.
But this isn’t about me, this is about you and you are amazing.

]]> By: Alicia http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-544 Alicia Sat, 26 Sep 2009 19:16:18 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-544 I've always thought of the name of your blog (and others, like Whiskey in My Sippy Cup) as a sort of social commentary/rejection of soccer mom culture (related: do soccer moms have a "culture"?). Ironic, satirical, sardonic... not at all tied to reality. Whether that's true or not, people who don't get that or see the simple HUMOR in it are dead to me. Seriously. What is WRONG with people? I am the adult child of an alcoholic, and so is my husband. I didn't touch alcohol until I was around 20 for fear that it was simply written in my genes, fated, for me to be alcoholic. I realized at some point, though, that I had control over it. Whether the predisposition was in my genes or not, I did not HAVE to become an alcoholic. That realization was really empowering. I've been drinking socially now for about 13 years, but I've only been what I would call "drunk" once (and not even enough to barf). I don't deny that my life could take that turn (as could anyone's) if I'm dealt a particularly shitty hand at some point, but I honestely don't think it'll happen. I worry instead about my four children who have it in their genes from both sides. My daughter, in particular, worries me. She's highly emotional, artistic, headstrong, creative, a risk-taker and rule-breaker... I can imagine her living her life fast, dependent on something because she needs that kind of rush. Scares the bejeesus out of me. I just hope it's not in her. I’ve always thought of the name of your blog (and others, like Whiskey in My Sippy Cup) as a sort of social commentary/rejection of soccer mom culture (related: do soccer moms have a “culture”?). Ironic, satirical, sardonic… not at all tied to reality. Whether that’s true or not, people who don’t get that or see the simple HUMOR in it are dead to me. Seriously. What is WRONG with people?

I am the adult child of an alcoholic, and so is my husband. I didn’t touch alcohol until I was around 20 for fear that it was simply written in my genes, fated, for me to be alcoholic. I realized at some point, though, that I had control over it. Whether the predisposition was in my genes or not, I did not HAVE to become an alcoholic. That realization was really empowering. I’ve been drinking socially now for about 13 years, but I’ve only been what I would call “drunk” once (and not even enough to barf).

I don’t deny that my life could take that turn (as could anyone’s) if I’m dealt a particularly shitty hand at some point, but I honestely don’t think it’ll happen. I worry instead about my four children who have it in their genes from both sides. My daughter, in particular, worries me. She’s highly emotional, artistic, headstrong, creative, a risk-taker and rule-breaker… I can imagine her living her life fast, dependent on something because she needs that kind of rush. Scares the bejeesus out of me.

I just hope it’s not in her.

]]> By: Donna Deluso http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-521 Donna Deluso Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:32:10 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-521 Brilliant article! My alcoholic stepfather came into my life when I was nine. My enabler mother turned herself inside out for him. Even though it's not genetic in my case, they both drove me to drink - literally and figuratively - at a very young age. I got eeeeeeek! close to becoming an alcoholic. I guess it has to start somewhere from scratch right? My life was defined by heavy drinking, binge drinking, nearly killing myself and my sister by driving during a blackout. 4 years ago I met someone who simply wouldn't tolerate it and he was worth it. Since May this year I've been teetotall, for no reason other than I don't need it anymore. I think alcohol may have lost it's grip forever - I hope so. Brilliant article! My alcoholic stepfather came into my life when I was nine. My enabler mother turned herself inside out for him. Even though it’s not genetic in my case, they both drove me to drink – literally and figuratively – at a very young age. I got eeeeeeek! close to becoming an alcoholic. I guess it has to start somewhere from scratch right? My life was defined by heavy drinking, binge drinking, nearly killing myself and my sister by driving during a blackout. 4 years ago I met someone who simply wouldn’t tolerate it and he was worth it. Since May this year I’ve been teetotall, for no reason other than I don’t need it anymore. I think alcohol may have lost it’s grip forever – I hope so.

]]> By: Ginger Magnolia http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-490 Ginger Magnolia Thu, 24 Sep 2009 01:15:44 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-490 This is wonderfully written, open and honest - and yes, even funny. I especially enjoy the bio - "retired after an admirable three months." You are so much stronger than you realize, Becky. This is wonderfully written, open and honest – and yes, even funny. I especially enjoy the bio – “retired after an admirable three months.”

You are so much stronger than you realize, Becky.

]]> By: mumma boo http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-485 mumma boo Wed, 23 Sep 2009 18:40:15 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-485 This is an amazing post, Becky. Kudos to you for having the guts to write it and to write it so well. This is an amazing post, Becky. Kudos to you for having the guts to write it and to write it so well.

]]> By: edenland http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-483 edenland Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:47:16 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-483 BECKY. Holy shit. Thank thank you thank you .... for sharing yourself, and for leading me to this website. I can't wait to read everybody's stories. You are so very awesome. XOX BECKY.

Holy shit. Thank thank you thank you …. for sharing yourself, and for leading me to this website. I can’t wait to read everybody’s stories.

You are so very awesome. XOX

]]> By: RenovationGirl http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-475 RenovationGirl Wed, 23 Sep 2009 02:19:19 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-475 Delurking here (from your blog) to say what an amazing post this is. Recently, my sister mentioned an article about this issue with mommy drinkers and mentioned your blog. I was shocked! I immediately said, "But she doesn't drink!!!" Unbelievable how words are skewed. You're awesome, Becky. I love your blog-it makes me shoot soda out of my nose daily!!! Delurking here (from your blog) to say what an amazing post this is. Recently, my sister mentioned an article about this issue with mommy drinkers and mentioned your blog. I was shocked! I immediately said, “But she doesn’t drink!!!” Unbelievable how words are skewed. You’re awesome, Becky. I love your blog-it makes me shoot soda out of my nose daily!!!

]]> By: Pamajama http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-473 Pamajama Tue, 22 Sep 2009 23:12:19 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-473 I love that you're writing about this Becky, it's something I always wonder about. You hide your pain so well in the humor that it's sometimes completely unnoticeable. Because of my own family history I rarely ever left my children with anyone, but you I would trust:) You've never written a single word that made me think your children have anything but a wonderful mother, some days better than others of course! Your trait of over-responsibility makes me think there is no way in hell you'll ever give into alcoholism. Of course, there are so many other land mines out there you need not stop worrying! Like for example the way I never dated a drunk because I could not bear the smell after years in an addictive family, so I skipped right over that peccadillo and went straight to drug addicts. I too never liked the term ACOA, preferring ACOF*ckingManiac. It's got a ring to it, yes? I love you, Becky, really:) I love that you’re writing about this Becky, it’s something I always wonder about. You hide your pain so well in the humor that it’s sometimes completely unnoticeable. Because of my own family history I rarely ever left my children with anyone, but you I would trust:) You’ve never written a single word that made me think your children have anything but a wonderful mother, some days better than others of course! Your trait of over-responsibility makes me think there is no way in hell you’ll ever give into alcoholism. Of course, there are so many other land mines out there you need not stop worrying! Like for example the way I never dated a drunk because I could not bear the smell after years in an addictive family, so I skipped right over that peccadillo and went straight to drug addicts. I too never liked the term ACOA, preferring ACOF*ckingManiac. It’s got a ring to it, yes? I love you, Becky, really:)

]]> By: foradifferentkindofgirl (fadkog) http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-472 foradifferentkindofgirl (fadkog) Tue, 22 Sep 2009 22:12:34 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-472 Well done, Becky. You SHOULD be proud of yourself! From what you've shared of your life with your friends and readers, you've dealt with, you have reason to be proud of the life you've created. Thank you for sharing this, friend. Well done, Becky. You SHOULD be proud of yourself! From what you’ve shared of your life with your friends and readers, you’ve dealt with, you have reason to be proud of the life you’ve created. Thank you for sharing this, friend.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-468 Nicole Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:27:51 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-468 How is it that people don't get the snarkyness of "Mommy Wants Vodka'?! Where is all the indignation over 'Mommy Needs A Time Out' or 'Just Wait Until Daddy Gets Home'?! Don't those titles advocate running as fast as you can to get away from your kids? Kuddos to you for writing this and for sharing it - knowing your predisposition is half the battle, and the fact that you acknowledge it and are so aware of it means that you are winning. And you are a winner. How is it that people don’t get the snarkyness of “Mommy Wants Vodka’?! Where is all the indignation over ‘Mommy Needs A Time Out’ or ‘Just Wait Until Daddy Gets Home’?! Don’t those titles advocate running as fast as you can to get away from your kids?

Kuddos to you for writing this and for sharing it – knowing your predisposition is half the battle, and the fact that you acknowledge it and are so aware of it means that you are winning.

And you are a winner.

]]> By: Suzy Voices http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-467 Suzy Voices Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:18:44 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-467 So awesome, Becky. You know I love you, even though we've never met. I know what a wonderful person you are without having to actually KNOW you. :) So awesome, Becky. You know I love you, even though we’ve never met. I know what a wonderful person you are without having to actually KNOW you. :)

]]> By: crankycheryl http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/09/20/my-name-is-becky-and-i-am-an-adult-child-of-two-alcoholics/comment-page-1/#comment-466 crankycheryl Tue, 22 Sep 2009 19:43:12 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=786#comment-466 When that terrible DWI tragedy occurred, I wondered how it would reflect on you, and on what's-her-name who wrote the 3-martini-playdate. In these times, I guess that misplaced backlash would be inevitable. But, you know, f* anyone who says we can't laugh at our own fears and demons. When that terrible DWI tragedy occurred, I wondered how it would reflect on you, and on what’s-her-name who wrote the 3-martini-playdate. In these times, I guess that misplaced backlash would be inevitable. But, you know, f* anyone who says we can’t laugh at our own fears and demons.

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