Comments on: Do We Need to Talk? http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/10/04/do-we-need-to-talk/ A blog about women and drinking--the ups, downs and everything in between. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:06:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Meg http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/10/04/do-we-need-to-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-668 Meg Mon, 05 Oct 2009 12:53:15 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=606#comment-668 Yes, Leah. I totally agree. That was what I was getting at by mentioning that there is no history of addictive behavior in our family. But, I do believe (and research backs me up) that one significantly increases one's chances of being able to live a life of moderation by beginning to practice restraint in childhood and parents can help nurture that trait by starting young. (If the 'nature' force toward overindulgance is too strong, it may not work, but it certainly can't hurt.) And, the person who has successfully developed restraint will have a better chance of finding his/her way back to moderation after trying the "over the top way." I love your reference to Siddhartha; it's one of my favorite books! Yes, Leah. I totally agree. That was what I was getting at by mentioning that there is no history of addictive behavior in our family. But, I do believe (and research backs me up) that one significantly increases one’s chances of being able to live a life of moderation by beginning to practice restraint in childhood and parents can help nurture that trait by starting young. (If the ‘nature’ force toward overindulgance is too strong, it may not work, but it certainly can’t hurt.) And, the person who has successfully developed restraint will have a better chance of finding his/her way back to moderation after trying the “over the top way.”

I love your reference to Siddhartha; it’s one of my favorite books!

]]> By: Leah http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/2009/10/04/do-we-need-to-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-666 Leah Mon, 05 Oct 2009 11:55:18 +0000 http://www.drinkingdiaries.com/?p=606#comment-666 Thanks for sharing this, Meg. I actually wondered, while reading, if maybe some of us are genetically hard-wired for moderation, and others--well--aren't, just like there are adrenaline junkies, etc. I also thought of Herman Hesse's novel, Siddhartha, where Siddhartha tries the ascetic way and the bacchanalian/over-the-top way before finding some kind of middle way. I wonder if most of us don't come to moderation (the lucky ones, at least!) after trying out different ways of being! Thanks for sharing this, Meg. I actually wondered, while reading, if maybe some of us are genetically hard-wired for moderation, and others–well–aren’t, just like there are adrenaline junkies, etc. I also thought of Herman Hesse’s novel, Siddhartha, where Siddhartha tries the ascetic way and the bacchanalian/over-the-top way before finding some kind of middle way. I wonder if most of us don’t come to moderation (the lucky ones, at least!) after trying out different ways of being!

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